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Saturday, August 17, 2013

To Stoically Go

Hanging with Boro 

My friend Boro thought everything I did was hilariously inept, and he made sure I knew this.  His sense of humour was sharp and dry, and I looked forward to seeing him each morning at the school where he lived. Boro had the aura of an old man, chuckling at his own latest joke. Once he saw me trying to run up a hill, and “FUGIT, SANEY FUGIT!” (run Janey, run – the kiddos called me Saney) was the next few days’ joke.

Boro, and the other kids at the school, had been adopted from the state orphanage across the road. The orphanage was still full of 2- to 17-year-olds; at 18 they’d transfer to care homes for the elderly. Summers 2001 and 2002 I worked mostly in the orphanage, helping look after a dozen younger kids who rarely left the single room where they ate, slept, and lined up, rocking, on potties for hours at a time.  The nurses tied the most disruptive kids to the radiators. Most were not technically “orphans”, but had been taken into, or left in, state care. Often, because of medical problems or disability, or a harelip, or because siblings were starving and the orphanage fed kids daily, or because of life-threatening domestic violence (doll play in the orphanage sometimes involved some harrowing re-enactments).

Institutionalisation can cause symptoms of autism, rendering kids non-verbal, self-stimulatory, unable to communicate. In 2001, I worked so hard to coax words from the kiddos, sometimes hearing a heartbreaking “mama” after several weeks.